Homosexuality and Christianity – Three Views and the Media Attached to Each

(This post is for a Christian Sexual Ethic blog that I plan to create, so it does not fit with my usual posts)

Whenever I teach about sexuality and Christianity and we talk about the current landscape I make sure that people understand the three ways that Christianity and Homosexuality intermix within the church. This is an overview and does not go into the reasons:

  1. Ex-Gay Community: Core beliefs… homosexuality is a sin and orientation is fluid. (Note: Ex-Gay does not imply the feelings absolutely disappear, but diminish and something replaces them)
  2. Gay, but not practicing: Core beliefs… homosexual action is a sin and may or may not be born that way, but pre-disposition does not determine right and wrong. So, the big difference between the Ex-Gay vs. Gay but not practicing is a belief on how fluid orientation is and possibly, but not universally if celibate or hetero is embraced.
  3. Gay Christianity: Core beliefs… consentual in spiritual marriage homosexual action is not a sin, but uneven power dynamics, sex outside of marriage are sins. Orientation is born that way and established by God. There is actually a whole gay theology that is used to support this. (Personally I disagree with the exegesis on much, but not all gay theology, but I want to represent their view).

Media that supports each:

Ex-Gay Community movies and books:

  1. There is an organization named Pure Passion that has some amazing testimonies from the Ex-Gay community and has a great documentary on the subject. The documentary is called: Such Were Some of You and goes over theology, biology and psychology for the whole thing citing some of the experts and largest proponents of the ex-gay movement and including large chunks of testimonies from ex-gay individuals. The documentary can be found here. Such Were Some of You documentary
  2. “I Was Once Gay” by Luca Di Tolve – Luca was a famous Italian gay activist actor, business man, who now is married with kids. This book is the story of his journey. An article about it can be found here. Article about Luca Di Tolve
  3. “Gay Girl, Good God” by Jackie Hill Perry – This is an amazing book by poet Jackie Hill Perry where she explains her sexual journey with the more important background context of her finding God. It very much is a counter balance to the book “Torn” by Justin Lee that is listed below.
  4. Culture Institue: The Bible and Homosexuality Series by Dr. Robert Gagnon” This two dvd teaching lesson would probably fit both into the Ex-Gay and Gay but not Practicing areas. I have not watched it yet. Dr. Gagnon is also featured on the “Such Were Some of You” documentary.

Gay but Not Practicing Community media:

  1. Living Out Website – One of the primary websites for this view is called Living Out. On the site there are testimonies and view point articles that greater explain this point of view.
  2. Writer Andrew Blunt in his blog about what it means to “Come Out” in the “Gay but Not Practicing” community. His blog can be found here. Coming out advice for Gay but not practicing Christians

Gay Christian Community movies and books:

  1. “Torn” by Justin Lee – “Torn” is the story of Justin Lee resolving his Christianity and his homosexuality. What’s interesting about Justin is almost all the usual psychological things that are associated with homosexuality he is missing. His attachment to his parents is not lopsided at all and his relationship with father is healthy and mother is not over bearing. No abuse, no pornography usage. He may or may not be an outlier, but his book is worth reading.
  2. “Camp Out” – “Camp Out” is a documentary about a Gay Christian summer camp. High school students that have identified as being gay join together with a gay pastor and explore Christianity and struggle with what it means to be gay and Christian.

Hate Speech vs Free Speech – Bigots, Nazi, Republicans and Democrats

(This post is for a series of posts on sexuality that I will eventually move to a different blog)

Right now in the media hate speech is a big deal. The word hate conjures up a person yelling and spitting irrationally. In normal speech we use the word all the times, like a Red Sox’ fan going “ugh I hate the Yankees”. Obviously that brings up a different picture.

In the Bible as in all of life there should always be a separation of inward feelings from outward expressions. “Hate Speech” would be an outward expression of an inward feeling. Making it illegal or punishing people for saying a certain thing, does not change their heart. What’s begun to happen is the process of re-education is being introduced to deal with the heart, where people are forced to attend classes to change their view.

What this is essentially saying is having some views in society is unacceptable and forcing people (through laws and re-education) is necessary to change their views. I highly disagree with this. I believe that in a free society where ideas are valued, that bad and corrosive ideas should be dealt with through honest debate and contention. Not by force, the true points and biases should be brought forward and dealt with one by one. I think the word “hate” has become a “poisoning the well” type of word. “Poisoning the well” is when someone tries to get you to have a strong feeling against a point of view, not through reason, but through emotion, so that you never actually reason through it. Negative words, that paint horrible pictures of views, like hate, bigotry, shame, extreme, far, nazi etc. even associating ideas with “Republican” or “Democrat” can poison the idea or issue, so that people never really deal with the issue at all. In my writings you will never find me disrespecting another’s position like that and “hate” has no place here, everyone’s views I will treat as reasonable and deal with on their own merits.

You can also recognize this mindset, when you have people either give death threats, or threaten to “dox” (release someone’s personal info online). These tactics again instead of fairly dealing with ideas in the public arena… try to personalize and control things, by force. This is the real hate.

Below are a list of links where we see “hate” used in a “poisoning the well” force sense.

Visit the cartoon by Adam Ford which points out the flaw in “hate speech” perfectly: Adam Ford’s cartoon on definig hate speech

Recently Amazon’s banning of books by people who once practiced a gay lifestyle, but no longer do, counts, because instead of letting them speak and defeating them on the content of what they are saying, their books are banned, because they do not view orientation as unchangeable. I encourage you to sign the petitions to amazon to reverse this course. Petition to stop speech ban on Amazon

PragerU did a great semi-animated video about the ridiculous reaction some people had to someone who simply disagreed with a position video is here

This inability to talk to each other and have open constructive dialog is satirized often in the Babylon Bee. Here is one about Megan Rapinoe who apparently has said she will only meet with politicians that agree with her. Megan Rapinoe Bee Story (Note: this story is satirical poking fun at her inability to consider other view points)

The Babylon Bee has another satirical point which pokes fun at our inability to want to listen to anyone else’s point of view. The headline reads Study Confirms All Your Opinions are Correct